'Why do we shout in anger?'

'Why do we shout in anger?' A saint asked his disciples,
'Why do we shout in anger?
Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'

His disciples thought for a while,
one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.'

'But, why do you shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the saint.
'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?

Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?'
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally he explained,
'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot.
To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love?
They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why?
Because their hearts are very close.

The distance between them is very small...'
The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.
Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all.

That is how close two people are when they love each other.

'MORAL' said the saint:
'When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return!'

TANTRA TOTEM

The Following is a Chinese GOOD LUCK tantra totem....
You may not believe but the advice is GREAT!!!

Read all the way down, you might learn something:

ONE
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO
Marry a man/woman you love to talk to.
As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE
Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR
When you say, "I LOVE YOU", mean it.

FIVE
When you say, "I'M SORRY", look the person in the eye.

SIX
Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN
Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT
Never laugh at anyone's dreams.
People who don't have dreams, don't have much.

NINE
Love deeply and passionately.
You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN
In disagreements, fight FAIRLY.
Please no name calling.

ELEVEN
Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE
Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN
When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

FOURTEEN
Remember that GREAT LOVE and GREAT ACHIEVEMENTS involve GREAT RISK.

FIFTEEN
Say thank you in small things you receive or achieve.

SIXTEEN
When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN
Remember the 3 R's:
Respect for self;
Respect for others;
Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN
Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN
When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY
Smile when picking up the phone.
The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY ONE
Spend some time alone.

TWENTY TWO
Believe in your first instinct.

TWENTY THREE
BELIEVE IN YOURSElF!